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Grief is a Passage

In 1986 my sister, a mother of four, died instantly in a car accident. It was my first experience of colossal grief. I was 27 and my first baby was 8 weeks old. Pain, fear and sobbing were my new roommates. Like a shark in deep black water or a never ending falling, it was a panicky, wide-eye’d, where can I run to experience. The longing - the unbelievable reality that it. is. over., never to hear, smell, touch, taste or see that person again. Utter despair. If you’ve ever lost someone before “their time” you know that for quite sometime the world looses color, nothing smells as sweet or looks as bright. Things become insignificant, completely falling off the radar. A clean house, mowed lawn, entertainment, even eating can take a back seat. The mind pulls the pain into our bodies and we retreat, into a jungle of grief. A retreat is necessary for us to lick our wounds and to begin healing. But because I was new to grief, there was an underlying fear. Will I ever get out of this jungle? Will life be worth living again? My first experience, in this jungle, was of thick vines that entangled my heart, swinging me from, laughter of sweet memories with her, to body-shaking sobs. I stumbled along week after week looking for a path, praying for a clearing. What I found was an extra measure of God’s enduring love! After about a year I staggered out the other side. I now know that sooner or later loss comes to everyone. It is a part of life and a great mystery. I learned to have empathy toward others and learned that those who have suffered make the most effective comforters.

Five years later, my sweet mother died from cancer, I was 33 but no longer a stranger to grief. With labored breath and falling tears I again stumbled into the jungle this time knowing that through faith and hope, I would come out the other side. God was waiting there for me and we started down the path. I learned that suffering produces intimacy with God. In Job 42:5 Job says, “My ears had heard of you but now my eyes have seen you.” This deeper intimacy with God works together for our good.

In Job 42:5 Job says, “My ears had heard of you but now my eyes have seen you.” This deeper intimacy with God works together for our good.

In 2005 my most beloved brother died from cancer, he was just 48 and it was awful. As I watched him slip away from me, the familiar jungle of grief was tapping on my shoulder. I dreaded the pain and separation with everything in me. But by now I had learned that I must get about the business of going through it. Pushing the elephant off my chest, I grabbed God’s hand with both of mine and walked intentionally into the jungle clinging to faith, hope and love. Suffering produces growth and maturity. I’ve learned that the people who are the most interesting and whom I like the most have always experienced some kind of deep pain or loss. I have learned that we can trust God to see to it that our suffering is not wasted.

Here’s what I know.

  • Suffering teaches us to look for meaning in life rather than just happiness.
  • Grief is a process and a path that must be traveled.
  • God’s Love can machete a path through any jungle.
  • God’s provision is not deliverance from but encouragement in times of trouble.
  • Grief is a passage and the price of love.

II Corinthians 1:3 (NLT) All praise to God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. God is our merciful Father and the source of all comfort. 4 He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When they are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us.

5 Comments








Gail03/23/14

Joyce~ this insightful, raw, & beautiful sharing touches my heart deeply. I have pondered it a couple of times now and it always brings up tears. There is a sense of “calling back” , encouarging those behind you on the path.  Thanks for being such a blessing.

Terri Roberts04/16/14

Hi. I’m Terri….did I meet you at the Health Day at LBC?  The girl I met is too young to have had all these experiences.  I can really see us having a long chat. 
I have a web site http://www.joythroughadversity.com
I believe we would connect on many levels.  Tragedy and health have greatly challenged my life. 

I am so delighted to connect to this site.  It gets tiring trying to do yoga and ignore mantras or come up with my own changes.  This was awesome for my sister and I this morning.

I have a “Living Foods” pot luck and thought you may want to share at one of our summer meetings.  Please contact me.  717-725-8617

julia jay05/29/14

beautiful

Linda12/07/16

Joyce,
Please know my thoughts and prayers continue for you and your family in the loss of your father.  Thank you for sharing your story on grief.  I lost my mother to mesothelioma 6 years ago and it was a difficult road for our family to travel through.  My mother also suffered from ovarian cancer, but was one of God’s miracles that gave her 14 more years of good health.  I also was diagnosed with breast cancer 16 years ago, but feel blessed to have survived this disease.  God has given me so many blessings in my life. Going through tough times has made me a stronger person and made me appreciate every day God gives me to share life with others. I have been doing your videos and will try the new one you posted!

Joyce Courtney12/10/16

Linda!  Thank you for sharing more of your story with me. You are a warrior!!  Love be with you!